When the Story No Longer Serves You
Letting Go of the Narrative That Helped You Survive, So You Can Become Who You’re Meant to Be
I was talking with a friend recently. She's an author who’s written powerful books about surviving domestic violence. Her work has helped so many people heal. She’s been a voice of truth for others who couldn’t yet speak their own.
But during our call, she said something that stopped me in my tracks:
"I'm done telling that chapter of my life. I'm ready to write something new. I want to reinvent myself."
She didn’t say it in anger. She wasn’t pushing anything away. She just knew, deep down, that something had ended. And it wasn’t the kind of ending you force. It was the kind that finds you when you’re ready.
She said, “I want to write about joy. About what comes after the pain. I want to be known for who I am, not just what I lived through.”
And wow. That hit me. Because so many of us have a story we’ve told for a long time. A story about what we’ve been through. About what we overcame. About what hurt us, and how we survived.
And that story matters. It’s shaped us. Maybe it even helped us find our voice or our purpose. But sometimes, we keep telling the story long after we’ve stopped living it.
We tell it because people expect it, because it’s familiar, because it gave us a place in the world. And slowly, without even noticing, we get stuck in a version of ourselves that no longer fits. That’s when it’s time for a shift.
It’s not about pretending your past didn’t happen. It’s about recognizing when a chapter is complete and being brave enough to turn the page. Letting go of an old story doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful. It means you’re growing.
You can thank the version of you who survived. You can honor the lessons. And then you can decide, I’m ready to become someone new. That’s what my friend is doing. She’s not erasing the past. She’s just not letting it define her future anymore.
And maybe you’re there too. Maybe there’s a story you’ve told about your pain, your past, your business, or your identity that no longer feels true.
Maybe it’s time to ask:
What story am I still telling that no longer reflects who I am?
Sit with that. Let it breathe. You don’t need to rush an answer. But when it comes, listen.
Next week, I’ll break down the three biggest blocks people face when they try to reinvent themselves, and how to move through them with love and clarity.
But for now, just know this:
1. You’re allowed to change.
2. You’re allowed to outgrow old stories.
3. And you’re allowed to write a new one.
Money Moves
There’s Profit in the Pivot
Here’s something people don’t say enough: changing your message can actually grow your income.
When you speak from your truth, the right people show up. The right opportunities open up. And yes, money flows more easily when you’re not forcing yourself to stay in the past.
Let your story evolve. Your abundance will follow.
Biz Box
What Are You Really Known For?
In business, we often get boxed in. Maybe you’re known for one kind of message, one kind of content, or one kind of product. And that worked, until it didn’t.
Here are some questions to explore this week:
What do people expect me to talk about?
What part of my message no longer lights me up?
What do I feel called to share, even if it feels risky?
Your message has permission to grow. You do too and so do I.
Soul Notes
You are allowed to outgrow your origin story.
You are not just what happened to you.
You are not just what you’ve healed from.
You are the version of you that’s still unfolding.
Give her the mic.🎤
Do the Work
Reinvention Readiness Checklist
Take a moment this week to check in with yourself.
Ask yourself honestly:
Am I still holding on to a story that doesn’t match who I’ve become?
Am I willing to release it, even if it feels scary?
Have I started to imagine who I want to become next?
Have I taken or at least planned one bold step toward that new identity?
You don’t need to rush the process. You just need to stay in the conversation with yourself. Let clarity come, one question at a time.