The Courage to Admit What’s Not Working
How to Start to Reinvent Yourself
The Courage to Admit What’s Not Working
There is a moment that arrives after every major shift.
It might show up in the quiet after the divorce is finalized. Or in the wake of a career setback that leaves you questioning everything. It can arrive after burnout forces you to step back from the business or job you once loved. And sometimes it sneaks in on an ordinary afternoon, when you suddenly realize you’re stuck in a life that no longer fits.
You wake up one day and the truth is sitting right there in your chest; this isn’t working anymore.
For a while, you try to fight that knowing. You tell yourself it’s just a rough patch, you just need to push a little harder, stay positive, be grateful. You remind yourself that so many people would trade places with you. You wear the brave face.
But the truth remains, what used to fit no longer does.
And somewhere, beneath the fear and guilt and questions, a new voice begins to whisper: It’s time to reinvent.
I see you, and I know how hard this moment can be.
When you’ve already survived a divorce, a business collapse, a toxic work environment, or deep burnout, there is often an unspoken pressure to prove to the world and to yourself that you’ve landed on your feet. That you’re fine. That you have figured it out.
And so, we cling to the new relationship that isn’t quite right, or to the job that drains us but pays the bills, or to a version of entrepreneurship that once lit us up but now feels heavy with obligation. We stay in friendships that no longer align. We fill the empty spaces too quickly, out of fear of what others might think if we admitted that we still don’t have it all together.
But here’s the thing ‘Being honest about what’s not working is not weakness. It is wisdom’.
It is the first and most necessary step toward creating a life that feels deeply aligned with who you are becoming not who you were, not who others expect you to be, but who you are now, in this new chapter.
After my own life unraveled in ways I didn’t see coming, I fell into this very trap. I thought I had to “bounce back” quickly. I took on work that wasn’t aligned because I was afraid to pause. I kept social circles intact out of loyalty, not connection. I poured energy into routines that looked good on the outside but drained me inside.
I knew it wasn’t working. I felt it every day. But admitting that felt terrifying. It felt like failure, when in truth it was an invitation.
The day I finally gave myself permission to be honest about what wasn’t working in my career, in my relationships, in my business model, even in how I was treating my body everything began to shift.
Not instantly. Not without mess. But with a clarity that freed me to begin again in a way that honored my values, my peace, and my future self.
If you are in that space right now knowing that things aren’t working, sensing that reinvention is calling but unsure where to begin know this:
➡You are not broken.
➡You have not failed.
➡You are evolving.
And evolution always begins with truth.
Ask yourself:
Where am I forcing something that no longer fits?
What am I pretending still serves me when it actually drains me?
What stories am I telling myself about why I “have to” keep this going?
What might be possible if I released what no longer aligns?
You may not have all the answers yet. You don’t need to. But honesty clears space for what is next.
Letting go of what isn’t working is an act of deep self-trust. It says, I believe in my ability to create something new.
Whether you are rebuilding after divorce, redefining your career, healing from burnout, or standing in the uncomfortable middle space of “I don’t know what’s next,” give yourself this gift.
Stop pretending. Start listening. Honor the truth you already feel.
From there, reinvention becomes not only possible, but inevitable.
And I promise the life you are called to create on the other side of honesty will be one that fits the woman you are becoming far better than the one you’ve been trying to hold together.
You are ready. Trust yourself.
In love,
Sonia
Affirmations to help support
I give myself permission to be honest about what no longer fits.
I trust myself to release what drains me and create space for what lights me up.
I am worthy of a life that feels aligned, peaceful, and true to who I am becoming.