Let That Sh*t Go (So You Can GLOW)

A no-BS guide to releasing resentment, reclaiming your joy, and stepping into the badass clarity your next level requires.

I didn’t realize I was still mad at her.

It had been years, maybe even a decade, since that business deal fell apart. Since the betrayal. Since the “What the hell just happened?” emails, the spiraling self-doubt, the financial fallout, and the long, angry showers where I practiced monologues she’d never hear.

But one random Tuesday morning, during a journaling prompt from a forgiveness exercise I swore I didn’t really need, there it was again… hot, bitter resentment. A grudge, quiet but heavy, still living in my chest like it was paying rent.

That’s when it hit me. Resentment doesn’t yell. It leaks. It seeps into how we show up. Into what we allow. Into the way we don’t promote the offer, don’t apply for the opportunity, don’t hire the help. Because underneath it all, we’re still guarding the wound.

Maybe you’ve felt this too. You’re doing all the right things. Reading the books. Hiring the coach. Posting the posts. But the joy, the flow, the trust in yourself and others? Still missing.

Forgiveness isn’t about being the bigger person. It’s about no longer letting someone else’s past behavior determine your current bandwidth. Because here’s the truth: every grudge you hold costs you something.

• Energy

• Creativity

• Trust

• Self-worth

• The willingness to risk, to dream, to lead

And the kicker? Most of us think we’ve forgiven when we’ve really just stopped talking about it.

I know this intimately. One of the most profound moments of my healing journey was the day I wrote a forgiveness letter to my ex-husband. Not to rehash the past or justify the pain. Not to blame him or beat myself up. But to say, with truth and love, “I forgive you. And I’m asking you to forgive me, too.”

It wasn’t about fault. It was about freedom. I told him, “I did the best I could as a spouse.” But I also admitted something deeper. I had childhood hurts I had never faced - hurts that shaped how I loved, how I coped, how I reacted, and how I shut down.

That letter wasn’t for closure between us. It was for liberation within me. A sacred moment of seeing myself clearly, not as a victim or a villain, but as a human doing her best while carrying wounds she didn’t yet have the tools to name.

And with that letter, I took my power back.

So this week, I want to invite you into a deeper truth. Forgiveness is a process. And it starts by getting radically honest about what, and who, you’re still carrying.

Not sure where to begin? Start with this question: What memory still makes your stomach twist when you think about it?

Yep. That one. We’re going there. But gently. With compassion. With tools. With choice.

And next week, we’ll talk about what happens when forgiveness meets leadership—and why your ability to forgive might just be your most powerful and profitable business move yet.

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WTF Just Happened?

The Smoke Alarm Is Not Part of the Ritual (But Mine Was)

So, here’s what happened.

I was deep into my forgiveness era. Journals were stacked. Crystals were charged. My playlist was humming something very “inner peace but make it powerful.” And I had just written a full, no-holding-back letter to someone who had hurt me deeply.

I was ready to release. And I mean literally.

I lit a candle, whispered a prayer, and set that letter on fire. It was supposed to be symbolic. Sacred. Cinematic. Cue the burning, the ashes, the dramatic rebirth.

Instead... cue the smoke alarm.

Loud. Wailing. Unforgiving in its own way. I scrambled around my office with a smoldering dish in one hand and a notebook in the other, fanning wildly like some kind of spiritual firefighter. My neighbors probably thought I was having a breakdown or hosting an exorcism.

Honestly, I might have been doing both.

So, WTF just happened?

Forgiveness. That’s what. Messy, loud, not-Instagrammable forgiveness. The kind where you don’t just “bless and release”, you burn and bawl and maybe even scare the dog.

But here’s the thing.

That smoke? That chaos? It was proof that something old was leaving my body, my space, my spirit. And I laughed. I really laughed. Because healing doesn’t always look graceful. Sometimes it looks like singed fingertips and a fire hazard.

So, if your forgiveness journey doesn’t feel neat or peaceful or even productive right away… good. That means you’re in it.

Next time, just maybe open a window first.

Got a WTF happened story… message me - I would love to read about it and maybe with your permission share in my next WTF segment.

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Money Moves

Forgiveness = Flow

So here's the deal: You can’t manifest wealth with one hand clutching a grudge.

Forgiveness isn’t just emotional housekeeping. It’s a financial strategy. Because every time you replay that old betrayal, every time you let fear of being burned again stop you from investing, expanding, or trusting, you're blocking your own cash flow.

Unforgiveness is expensive. It costs you clarity. It costs you courage. It costs you the kind of confident, soul-led decision-making that brings in aligned clients, collaborations, and coin.

Research shows forgiveness reduces stress and increases mindfulness, and you know what thrives in that space? Ideas. Intuition. Innovation. The exact fuel you need to build your next offer or boldly raise your rates.

So if you’re feeling stuck around money, ask yourself: Is there someone I need to forgive before I can fully receive?

It might not be about money on the surface… but trust me, it’s always connected.

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Biz Box

Forgiveness Is Your CEO Superpower

So let’s talk leadership! Not the kind with a crisp blazer and a 90-day KPI plan (though yes, slay). I’m talking soul leadership. The kind that starts behind the scenes, in the quiet moments, where you're still replaying that one client who ghosted after promising the world, or the team member who left you hanging mid-launch.

Here’s the truth most business coaches won’t tell you: if you want to lead boldly, you have to forgive deeply.

Unforgiveness clogs your vision. It makes you second-guess your decisions. It keeps you in protection mode instead of creation mode. You can’t innovate or expand when you’re stuck replaying old boardroom betrayals and Slack-storm disasters. Ask me how I know?!

But when you forgive? You lead lighter. You hire smarter. You set boundaries from wisdom, not wounds.

Dr. Shawne Duperon, founder of Project Forgive, said it best:
“Forgiveness is a bold leadership skill.”

And bold leaders make big impact.

So if you’ve been secretly dragging old business baggage from one project, team, or launch to the next; maybe it’s time to drop it. Not because they deserve it, but because you do.

Soul Notes

A Little Light for Your Day

So here’s your reminder, in case the world forgot to tell you today:

✨ You are not the things that happened to you.
✨ You are not the person you had to become to survive.
✨ You are the one who gets to choose what happens next.

You can pause.
You can pivot.
You can forgive.
You can fly.

Say it with me: “I choose to release what no longer serves me. My future is too juicy to be weighed down by my past.”

Breathe that in. That’s your soul exhaling.

Do the Work!

Because Insight Without Action is Just a Nice Idea

So you’ve had the shift. You’ve felt the tingle. Maybe even the nudge to write a letter or light a match (responsibly, please). Now it’s time to move this energy.

This week’s practice comes straight from the 21-day forgiveness workbook and it’s a simple, powerful combo to help you start clearing emotional clutter and reclaiming your peace (and your power).

This Week’s Soulwork

1. Write the Letter.
Choose one person, one moment, or one wound.
Write the truth — everything you never said, every feeling that’s still lingering.
Let it pour out. Rage. Grieve. Love. Release.
Then, when you’re ready… destroy it.
Burn it. Shred it. Rip it with intention.
You’re letting it go on purpose.

2. Say the Forgiveness Mantra.
Repeat this aloud (daily, if you can):

“I choose to forgive [insert name] for [situation].
I choose to release the pain I carry inside of me.
It no longer serves a purpose.
I choose to forgive to free myself of hurt and create space for happiness, peace, and love.”

3. Bonus Ritual: Ho’oponopono Prayer
Feeling brave? Speak this ancient Hawaiian prayer while visualizing the person you're forgiving:

“I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.”

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Checklist for a Lighter You

• I chose one person to begin forgiving this week

• I wrote a full, no-holds-barred letter (and let it go)

• I practiced my forgiveness mantra or prayer

• I acknowledged my own feelings without judgment

• I reminded myself: this is a process, not a performance

• I allowed space for compassion — even if it’s just a sliver

• I chose myself. Again and again.

So... what if this is the week the shift begins?

Not because it all gets fixed, but because you choose to stop carrying what’s no longer yours.

And next week? We go even deeper into forgiveness as a leadership lens and how it opens the door to more trust, more power, and more aligned expansion than you’ve ever felt.

Until then, keep breathing, feeling, and choosing your next-level self.
Forgiveness looks good on you.

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